Divorce …and the Holidays!
I was asked about Divorce and the Holidays the other day…and how difficult it was for each parent to compete with the other. Fortunately, I’m not dealing with that but rather another issue - an inter-faith relationship.
I posed these questions to Dr Kathi who had a totally different take on both - I expected nothing different. She said (without missing a beat),,,what a perfect time for parents to start new traditions with their children. Whether a parent finds him/herself in a new relationship, a new town, starting over or celebrating two holidays for the first time, our children will remember the time spent rather than the money spent.
The one-on-one time and relationship between child and parent needs to be re-established and there is no need to hold onto expectations as to how things once were or how things are supposed to be - things only are as you make them. Expectations are self-imposed and not the expectations of our children. If we’re happy and committed to our children, it’s an easy thing for our children to embrace accordingly.