Milestonesforlife

Another good read for all us Type A’s is “Connecting with our Children”, by Roberta Gilbert (MD). Roberta’s take on behavioral issues is similar to ours and suggests reviewing the parent/family relationship with the child which most often proves as the source for our childrens behavior.

One of her lists, which I love, is “Twenty Ways to Invade your Childs Behavior”…which as our children get older, is a tough line not to cross. Here are my Top 10…

1.  Tell her what to do when you know she knows what to do

2.  Dress him when you know he can dress himself

3.  Hover

4.  Have too many rules

5.  Overshedule him

6. Don’t allow any alone time

7. Make him/her eat everything on the plate

8. Think about her more than you do yourself or your spouse

9. Let his achievements determine your emotional well-being

10. Take on her unacceptable behavior as your own problem…without letting the natural consequences do their own work.